Don't compare yourself to others

The most dangerous thing anyone can ever do is compare themselves to others. I have been guilty of doing this myself more times than I care to admit. It is so easy to fall into that mind set of comparison. Now a days with social media its much harder not to live in that comparison mindset. Everyone posts about their relationships, children, jobs, vacations, selfies, and even what they had to eat. I catch myself thinking that seeing others my age be married, have kids, have a career its makes me feel behind, than I feel as though I can't keep up because of where I am at in my life. What we all have to remember even myself is people only post what makes them look the best. No one sees the silent battles and journeys people go through. Social media shows real people but real people only show what they want others to see. As a woman sometimes I think if I only I were fill in the blank. Its a miserable place to be in. The fact is comparison is of the devil and God would not want us as his children comparing ourselves. We are all individuals beautiful in our own ways and we all have our own journeys. Lately I have really caught myself thinking oh crap I have to catch up I am nearly 28 not married, no kids, and still trying to figure it out. I think that's what I need to be doing to. This makes me upset and frankly miserable. I began to think why would I want to be where everyone else is? I wouldn't want to live anyone else's life but my own. There is not another me and its time to focus on my own journey. This is easier said than done. I compare myself to my sibling thinking when he was my age he was married and already had a house. He is only 2 years older than me but I feel so behind. No one is making me feel this way and its been a pleasure to watch him get married and start a life with the love of his life. Everyone around me is married, engaged, having kids and feel like I have done nothing. These are the things that go through my head. The thing is God has this beautiful plan for my life that's only met for me not for anyone else. Comparison is a vicious cycle that God really doesn't want anyone in. God has created each person in his own image and we are all unique in so many ways. I know for a fact God doesn't sit up there and say this person needs to be like this person. God probably says instead ,"Stop comparing yourself my child, I made you differently and have you exactly where you need to be." The world would be such a better place if everyone would be their unique selves and not cared about what everyone else thought. A friend recently told me she compared herself to someone else and my response was I love who you are, don't change anything about you. Of course she told me the same thing. This is something everyone needs to remember! About 3 years ago I was in a bad place and was friends with the worst person on the planet and I was convinced that being innocent and a good girl wasn't good enough, that I needed to have adventure. I had an adventure all right but not a good one, I was woken up and reminded that I am good enough, and I kicked that person out my life. So all of you out there reading this, Stop comparing yourselves to others, just be you! We are all meant for something incredible and God has a plan for each unique individual!

Till next time!

S.