What I’m tired of hearing as a single person

I am in my late twenties and my relationship status happens to be single. It has been a long journey trying to find the right man to spend the rest of my life with. There are certain cliche phrases I have heard over the years, it just has gotten worse the older I have gotten. People in general normally mean well, and do not mean to bother me with their comments. For some reason my relationship status becomes a topic of conversation not by my choosing. I wish people would just ask me how I am, or what I am up to job wise, life in general. I am tired of hearing these cliche phrases and here is my list of phrases I have heard.

1. You are still single. You are how old now? I really do not understand why people think its okay to use the still word. Like what is up with that. Its fine to ask if someone is single but its a whole another question when someone uses the still word. That is in a way insulting. Age definitely does not have anything to do with being single and also I am painfully aware of my age. No one has to remind me.

2. I miss being single

This statement makes zero sense to me. Unless the person is in a bad relationship but I have had people that seemed to be in good relationships actually say this to me when I do on occasion talk about being single. This makes me mad because I as a single person have a desire in my heart to love someone and be loved by someone. This day in age it is so hard to meet someone so to hear someone actually utter those words its upsetting. When I meet the one I will be thankful and never wish to be single again, being single really sucks!

3. Have you tried online dating?

Online dating is now just about hooking up, friends with benefits, or couples looking for a third. The majority of people on those sites don't want meaningful relationships anymore. Its just a huge disappointment. When people ask this its because they want to be helpful in their own way, but they are not aware how difficult it is. My really close friend has called it the new bar scene.

4. You’re too picky I am trying to find someone to spend the rest of my life with, and that decision shouldn't be made lightly. This day in age how society is especially with the hookups, friends with benefits etc. I would be worried if I wasn't some what picky. This would be the person for the rest of my life, and settling is not an option at all. I don't consider myself picky at all, but I do have high standards. Honestly who doesn't have high standards.

5. Oh I can set you up with someone! People have the best intentions at heart and people meet all the time through mutual friends. Its when I don’t even mention my relationship status that people just think I need their help. Its especially annoying when I barely know someone that tries this. Its like I didn‘t even ask what you thought.

6. Its in God’s timing

This statement is very true but at times it upsets me. Even though I know that everything is in God’s timing and there are times I need to hear it. Sometimes all I want someone to say is, “Man it must suck to be single.”

7. You will meet your man soon

I have been hearing this since my early twenties. People try to be so encouraging and reassure me I will meet someone. Then I end up thinking about meeting someone soon and when i don't I am left expecting and disappointed. I'm trying not think about meeting anyone right now and focus on other things. As the old saying goes I will meet someone when I least expect it!

Hopefully it will get easier for the single people out there including me, and navigating through these cliche phrases that people always feel the need to say. I have grown to have thicker skin and not get as bothered by it as I was in my early twenties.

Till next time!

S.